Hello loves, tonight I’m sharing some thoughts on difference, values, and the limits of Human Design as a system. It’s a brief-ish essay-like creature that demanded to be expressed before I head into a very busy solstice weekend. There are no clever insights into particular types, so it is infinitely less skim/scrollable than most of my newsletters, but I hope you find some value in it nonetheless.
Here we go…
One of the parts of Human Design that is the most expansive and wonderful to me is learning about the complexities of the differences in our design. I love exploring compatibilities and challenges, how we bring out each other’s strengths, how we compliment one another.
One of the most freeing moments of my life was when I spoke with someone with a very different design from mine and released a metric fuck-ton of guilt over how I was living my life. She was genuinely lit up by things I couldn’t care less about, and that’s part of the magic. We are meant to be different and in that difference we find wholeness as a collective and a community.
I am working on celebrating and embracing difference and Human Design is an excellent tool to help me on that journey. However, embracing difference is not the same as a lack of boundaries, values, or standards.
I can honor the difference in your energy, celebrate your different viewpoints, and still not keep space for you in my life if we differ significantly in our values. You do not have to continue to allow people access to your energy who do not share your values and do not respect your autonomy. Diversity of thought is crucial, but you do not need to sacrifice what you believe to be a bridge for every bigot.
That said, as a White woman, Human Design has also taught me a lot about how much energetic space I take up (defined Solar Plexus, Root, and Heart up in here, add that to my Manifestor energy and I can dominate a room like woah). Not every room needs the fullness of my self-expression. Some rooms are best served by my keeping my energy in check, or even by my absence.
All of this is to say, Human Design is just a system, one of many, that can allow us access to validation, recognition, and empowerment, but it is just a system. How we engage with it can teach us so much, but it is in the engaging with it that we find power and permission to truly change. It is when we take this esoteric information and turn it into practical action and behavior. It is an experiment, a journey.
Enjoy the exploration and remember that we are fallible people using fallible systems, bumbling our way through the world. I am wishing you patience and fortitude as we in the Northern Hemisphere face the longest night of the year. For those of you in Australia and other southern places, send some sunny thoughts our way as we move through this chrysalis.
I hope to send out some solstice guidance based on some nuance of Human Design next week, but in case the next few days get away from me, Solstice Blessings to you all.
Trust your magic,
Clare